Discombobulated?

Somewhere along the way, we artistic types get all discombobulated. Yes, there is such a word. It means, “To throw into a state of confusion.”

What happens to us?

I think it’s that comparison thing.

At some point, we look at our efforts, then someone else’s, and decide, “I’m embarrassed” or “I’ll never measure up.” When that happens, if we don’t know how to correct our thinking, we end up believing a tragic lie: “I’m not good enough to do this. I’m done.” We quit. Or if we do try, we don’t share for fear of rejection or shame.

What a loss! For us and others who might actually enjoy what we do.

If this scenario has happened to you, I have three thoughts:

Taste is incredibly subjective!

I’ve enjoyed the judges in my art exhibits, and they’ve all done a great job, but let me assure you. Two to three well-qualified and wonderful people can assess the same group of artists and draw very different conclusions.

Comparison is the enemy of your authentic self!

You can’t be you if you’re afraid you won’t measure up to someone else. As is often said, you are the best-qualified person to be you, so enjoy who you are and how your gift operates in you.

Comparison can be a friend, if you know how to use it right!

If we can get past the “I don’t measure up” accusation, comparison can be a healthy tool. We can learn from someone else’s example and experience. That’s the purpose of good teachers. Usually people who excel have earned it somehow with something called “hard work.” Don’t be threatened by someone else’s success. Draw from them. We can emulate or even imitate without copying. Hone your skills.

Thought for today: The other side may not be as green as you think.